relaxation

Bring it on, Life, But Only If I am Rested and Relaxed!

I have had some interesting experiences this summer. It has been a busy, exciting, disturbing, hectic, troubling and inspiring summer. I went skydiving (for the third time) with my wife and son. Exciting. Our son was in a car accident, totaling the long time family vehicle. Scary. Our long time dearly loved family dog of ten years died abruptly. Disturbing. You probably get an idea of the wide variety of these experiences. You may identify with some of them too.

Rather than going into the minor details, my goal is to point out how experiences shape our lives. What life throws our way is not in our control. How hot the weather will be today or how bad the traffic will be on the way home from work are things beyond our individual control.

How we deal with what is thrown our way is critical. It also depends on what frame of mind we are in. Well rested, emotionally secure people will be able to deal with a lot of stressful events and deal with them differently than others. Suffering already from over work and stress, leading to lack of good quality sleep, many of us are left with little emotional capacity to take any more trouble and deal with it adequately.

There are people in this world who have to walk long distances for drinking water and wonder each morning if they will find the one meal for that day. There are people who have been through genocides, massacres, famines, floods, epidemics and all kinds of mass miseries inflicted on them by other people and by nature. Are they all emotionally exhausted, mentally paralyzed, unable to function, survive, move forward and build their lives? May be some, but not all.

On the other hand, there are people with every imaginable luxury of life, who would give anything to be able to take a nap, like Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston who gave their lives trying to obtain a few moments of forced, chemically induced rest for their minds.

What is the difference? The difference is in genetics, brain wiring, cultures, environment and upbringing. Given all else being equal, those of us who find themselves unable to feel emotionally secure, able to let go, calm their minds, rest and recharge to face the inflictions of everyday life, need to learn these skills. If it does not come naturally, it has to be learnt. Like a child learns to walk naturally, but has to be taught how to ride a bicycle.

It is the job of those who are in the position of helping others, to assist them in this journey. It is also the job of those who are looking for help, grasping for straws, to seek out this help. It is available. It is here. We do it every day at Sehatu Sleep and Yoga Studio.

Go, get it, wherever you can. It will make life better, easier and more fun for all.

 

 

Traveling Well and Grateful

It is better to travel well than to arrive.” Buddha

So, growing a business, any business, is hard. And, it is easier if you truly believe and have a passion for the work. If the work you do is in your essence. I know the above quote I have left at the end of the mat in classes this week can apply to anything and mostly to the big something: LIFE. It also struck me this morning... as I was going about my yard watering and playing with my dogs before the heat...it applies to growing Sehatu Sleep and Yoga, as well.

We are traveling well, Sehatu. Meeting new students, sharing our passion for Yoga and Relaxation Training, well. There is not an arrival, an outcome, beyond sharing practices and methods that have worked for us. What could be better, more authentic, than to be given the opportunity to share? Thank you.

We had a bit of a “staff meeting” a few nights ago. The time just whizzed by as we all sat around on chairs, bolsters, mats or the floor and shared like little kids our stories around Yoga and sleep. Sharing our travels that have brought us to Sehatu. Several of us commented about the energy of the space and the evening and how that sweet enthusiasm of like-minded, committed individuals, coming together was apparent. The energy you feel in your body when you know you are fully there and in your essence. I have learned to listen to that felt sense. It has helped me to travel well and to appreciate where I am today on and off the mat. Again, thank you Friendly Universe and all fellow travelers. Travel well.

Here is the Poem I have read to classes all week and a few of you asked for. “Walk Slowly”, by Danna Faulds, from Go In and In, Poems from the Heart of Yoga.

 

Walk Slowly

It only takes a reminder to breathe,

a moment to be still, and just like that,

something in me settles, softens, makes

space for imperfection. The harsh voice

of judgment drops to a whisper and I

remember again that life isn’t a relay

race; that we will all cross the finish

line; that waking up to life is what we

were born for. As many times as I

forget, catch myself charging forward

without even knowing where I’m going,

that many times I can make the choice

to stop, to breathe, and be, and walk

slowly into the mystery.

 

On Life, Death, Health and Sleep

I have had a few enlightening encounters with my patients in the last few weeks. Recently, one of my patient's wife made an intense comment: "He gasps and chokes in sleep. I can't let him die like this! Two of my family members passed away in the last few years and I could not save them. I can't let it happen again!!" This led to a discussion. Another young patient in his 70's said to me today he probably has five to ten more years to live considering how sickly he is. This led to another discussion. A third patient said: "I know I have neglected myself and my family for the last several years. I have been spending all my time at work. I now want to switch my life around."

I just want to share a few of my thoughts from these encounters.

We all know we did not choose whether, when, and where to arrive in this world and won't choose the time of our death either. This fact however gets lost on us while we struggle in our lives to go to school, learn, have jobs and families, in the process developing a false sense of control over ours and our loved ones' lives.

Its not about how long we live. Its how we live. A healthy, useful, long life. A productive, loving life. The duration does count, but the quality does lots more.

While death is certain for every living organism, a realization of this absolute fact makes the job of making the best of every second, minute, hour and day of life even more significant.

Given good health care and a balanced lifestyle, people should be able to live happily way past 100 years. To have a fatalistic attitude towards life as one gets older prevents the person from enjoying every day of life that they still do have.

Its not about choosing between work and family. Its about finding a balance.

We can not hang on to those we love. We have to let go of them in order to love them.

The need to control.... a quality shared by many smart, intellectually gifted people is most often a major factor in them feeling unable to relax, let go, fall and stay asleep. This is a sign of loss of that delicate balance in life that is necessary for health, wellness and happiness.

This is exactly why we need to work hard towards restoring that balance, learning to control and let go, learning to live and die, by retraining our minds.

We need to learn to Relax, Sleep better and Perform at our best, for a healthy, longer, happier, more fulfilling life.

 

 

 

On The Subject of The Active Mind Syndrome - Do You Have It Too?

To be very frank there is no such condition identified in the Diagnostics and Statistics Manual that mental health providers use, at least not so far. Could it be that the prevalence of this problem is so high it is considered kind of normal to suffer with it?

Society has been hard at work to train our children and adults alike, to work hard, be responsible, worry about the consequences of our actions and be held accountable. Nothing wrong with any of that but there are ramifications to this training that we never see coming.

In going through the process of developing these necessary traits in our personalities, we de-train ourselves from how were were as young children, happy go lucky, taking a day at a time, relaxed and unhurried. Some of us can cope with the change simply because they have been blessed with a calm demeanor implanted genetically into their minds. The rest of us suffer. We worry about getting to places on time, paying bills, caring for loved ones, making money, spending money, socializing, networking, entertaining, being entertained, even sleeping. We take our busy minds to bed with us and rise with these busy multi tasking, active minds. Our minds keep busy problem solving, thinking, recalling what happened and planning ahead for what might happen, even when we are supposed to be resting.

Rest doesn't come easy, sleep doesn't come, and if it comes it is not restful. We keep tossing and turning in bed trying to fall asleep. We wake up within 2-3 hours of falling asleep often staring in the dark, counting sheep, checking text messages and emails, turning the TV on and off and finally giving in to the temptation to take some sort of sleeping pill. Some will keep going to the bathroom or get up and eat. Then comes the dreaded morning and back to the race to finish tasks, be on time, finish the work, on and on and on.

I see these people every day in my sleep medicine practice. Nice, responsible, good people. Suffering people. Distressed people. "Doctor, the more I try to sleep the harder it is to fall asleep. My mind just races and doesn't stop, even when there is nothing stressful happening. What should I do? Can you help me?" And I find myself thinking, here is another patient with the undiagnosed and so far unnamed Active Mind Syndrome.

There are many ways to treat it should you be one of those people who have experienced the ill effects of this condition. Its important to know two facts first though. Firstly, there is no use asking the doctor since most doctors don't know what it is (and likely they have it too) and they wouldn't know how to treat it. Secondly, the answer is not in a pill.

What is your motivation? How strong is it? How bad is your suffering?

We at Sehatu Sleep think we have the answer. We call it Deep Relaxation Training (www.sehatusleep.com). We feel it requires re-training the mind to make the best of both worlds. People can learn to be productive, efficient, high achieving, and at the same time able to let go, relax, and loosen up on demand; able to sleep like a baby. It does require hard work, commitment and consistency but is very do-able. It is very powerful and gives you the capability to deal with life as it happens.

It is certainly not the only answer. Many paths can lead you to the same goal. We think ours is the most comprehensive. If not us, there are many wise people around you wherever you are. It just takes recognizing the problem and then seeking help. Its around the corner. Waiting for you. Wherever you are.

Happy dreams!

Which one works best for insomnia: Ambien, Lunesta, Sonata ..... or a golf club?

 

 

"There is no difference between taking a sleeping pill or asking someone to club you on the head"

The inability to fall or stay asleep, or waking up too early and then feeling the effects of sleep deprivation is commonly termed insomnia. The cost of insomnia to the US economy is estimated at over $35 billion each year. There are many types and many causes of insomnia. The commonest problem by far, is a state of mind called "hyper arousal" in which the person feels their mind continues to work and be active, even if they are not worried about anything. The problem tends to run in families, affects millions of people and affects smart people more, should that be consolation to some.

Since doctors have few tools to work with besides medicine, they tend to offer their patients the least addictive of the sleeping pills they know of, but end up in a wild goose chase of changing doses, managing side effects and development of tolerance to the sleep inducing effects. The pharmaceutical industry has also found insomnia therapy to be a major money maker. Ambien, also known by its generic name Zolpidem is one of the most commonly prescribed sleeping pills. The ever present Lunesta commercial on TV has inspired many comedy show spoofs. Trazodone has been used for many years. Ativan, Valium, Seroquel, Risperdal, Restoril; there are so many . Never mind the dozens of so called "natural" remedies, supplements (a chemical is a chemical, call it natural or pharmaceutical), gadgets, even iphone apps. None of these however address the issue of hyper arousal of the mind or do so ineffectively over the long term.

Research has shown over and over that sleeping pills i.e. "clubbing your head", works for short periods of time only. Cognitive behavior therapy, relaxation training, stress management techniques including yoga and meditation work better, and work long term. The problem so far has been that trained therapists are hard to find and even harder to make health insurance companies pay for it.

Uniquely, Sehatu Sleep, a small start up company in Northern California, has taken up this challenge. They offer on site and online, "Deep Relaxation Training" to empower insomniacs, to calm their minds and get restful sleep. No chemicals, no gadgets, no gimmicks. This, is what we need, not clubs on our heads!

Sehatu Sleep Opens its doors to the public on June 1, 2012

Sehatu Sleep Granite Bay CA We will open our doors to the public on June 1, 2012.

Registration is now open for introductory sessions for Deep Relaxation Training. Timings and days are listed on our calendar and classes pages. Pre payment of $25 for the 2 hour session is required, valued at $50. Please contact us at info@sehatusleep.com, call us at 916-742-7718 or schedule online by going to our classes page.

Registration is now open for Yoga classes. Timings, types of yoga and instructors are listed in our calendar and classes pages. Please contact us at info@sehatusleep.com, call us at 916-742-7718 or schedule online by going to our classes page.