No "Shoulds" Allowed!

 

“Let go of who you think you should be and embrace who you are.” Brene' Brown, The Gift of Imperfection

 
I love this quote. I know it can apply to a multitude of moments in my life. I find it resonates for me on my Yoga mat doing Yoga asana, as well. (Yoga asana is the poses, the physical practice of Yoga)
I shared this quote with those attending our Sunday Yin class at Sehatu Sleep and Yoga Studio. I shared it from that authentic place of knowing, once again, the vulnerability of a physical practice in a Yoga class.  It takes time to put it into context, to get out of our heads. It took me some time to realize that nobody else is looking at me, no one else is evaluating or assessing my practice. They are in their own practice. Wow! Really?
 
Actually there is someone who is evaluating me...my practice...deciding I should be or look a certain way...ME!
 
Over the years, I heard my teachers talk of suffering and how when we venture into the “shoulds” we suffer, we become anxious, we become wound up, we leave our body and we are fully in the grip of our thoughts, our images, our perceptions. We are no longer connected to what is and wishing instead it all be different. We suffer when we want reality to be different. When we think reality should be different. Thank you, teachers. Keep sharing and reminding me. I am my own worst “shoulder”...until I observe it and stop, breath and accept. Embrace.
 
Imagine for a moment how different it might be to fully embrace a moment rather than wish the moment was different, wish we were different in the moment. Ahhh … Freedom. I feel immediate freedom to be in this moment whatever it is when I let go of all the thoughts it should be different, all the thoughts I should be different.
After our class we informally discussed how this can be a wonderful freedom experienced in a Yoga class, practiced in a Yoga class. When we let go of the way we think a shape/pose/posture should look we give ourselves the opportunity to enjoy, to embrace, the way the shape/pose/posture actually feels in our body. We can tune into the reality of sensations and let our thinking mind rest for a bit. It is then that we are in our practice of Yoga. It is then that we are out of our head and in the moment: present, free.
 
I also love the title of this book: The Gift of Imperfection. Smiling!